Tips for understanding and success!
At Inner Life Transformations and in A Fresh Cup of Counseling, it is clear almost all of our work has to do with relationships: understanding them, growing with them, healing them, and learning from them. Some relationships are wonderfully embracing and energy-giving. Others may be seriously energy-depleting or even toxic. How do we handle each type? Who are these relationships with? Self, Family, Friends, Coworkers, Superiors, and Higher Power. Problems in any of these relationships is the fertile ground for counseling or coaching. The goal is resolution and healing. So, so in our various blog posts, we will explore some of the ways we address problems in relationships. Below you will see some of the topics with tips and introductory reading resources to get you started, but each individual blog will dive in much deeper.
Inner Children: The Relationship Within
Tip: When your Adult Within is finally, lovingly in charge, your Inner Children are no longer running your life and they are quite relieved to let go of these often-overwhelming adult responsibilities (overwhelming for a child or teen anyway).
Book: Homecoming by John Bradshaw (I recommend the Audible version because John narrates it himself and his inner child guided meditations are amazingly powerful.)
Codependency: The Relationship Without
Tip: One sign of codependency is finding yourself in the Rescuer Role over and over in your relationships. The pattern can be broken.
Books: Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood and The New Codependency by Melodie Beattie
Dating in the 21st Century: Could it be any crazier?
Tip: In case you hadn’t noticed (LOL), all the old rules are gone.
Book: Mars and Venus on a Date by John Gray
Common Mistakes and Sabotages in Love Relationships
Tip: Unconsciously feeling you don’t deserve love.
Book: A Couples Guide to Communication by John Gottman, et al
Past Life Relationships in Present Day Life
Tip: It’s not always about this life.
Books: Many Lives, Many Masters by Brian Weiss and Other Selves, Other Lives by Roger Woolger
Healthy Partnership: Yes, it is possible!
Tip: Love is an action verb!
Book: The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman
What to do with a Narcissist?
Tip: Are they even capable of a healthy, adult relationship?
Books: Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them by Susan Forward and Gaslighting and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery by Don Barlow
More to come! We want your feedback and will be happy to hear your comments.